For some children, their to-do list is longer than their parents’. Does it seem like their homework is way too overwhelming? For a situation like this, education and parenting experts chimed in on a very important piece of advice: advocating for your child in the classroom.
Communicate with the teacher
Dr. Kimberly Williams, a Clinical Neuropsychologist and Clinical Psychologist, said:
There are times when the homework truly is too much for a child. I encourage a parent to let a child do as much as they can do, but once they are tired and shut down that’s it. Family time and sleep are far more important. A parent can send a note to the teacher explaining that an effort was made and that this child needed more time. In this way, the school team is aware that the child is truly having trouble with the amount of work or the grade level of the assignments.
Johnna A. Ithier of JohnnaIthierSpeakLife4 said:
Advocate for your child. Sometimes homework is not necessary. My first grader reads at a third grade level. Completing his reading log is annoying to him and I don’t force him. He reads every night on his own. I want him to continue to love reading and not be turned off by filling out logs.
Do you think your child gets too much homework? These experts encourage talking to the teacher.
Traditional homework may not be a good fit
Dr. Claudia Luiz, author of The Making of a Psychoanalyst and Where’s My Sanity? Stories that Help said:
It is really important to note that some children are really not meant for traditional public education. Perhaps they are more into social interaction and not into memorizing. For these children, the traditional school systems where they’re expected to take in information will be very difficult. Parents have to tell their kids there are seven different kinds of intelligence. Memorizing is just one. Just because you don’t do well in school doesn’t mean you won’t achieve later. In fact, I know many kids who did very poorly in school (Steve Jobs, Steven Spielberg) but when their parents reassured them that they had other kinds of intelligence and other strengths, the kids did really well in the real world.
Jim Flannery of the Peer Unschooling Network said:
I would suggest being supportive of and encouraging of your child’s wishes to not do homework rather than re-enforcing the coercive maneuvering of their school system to force them to do things they don’t want. With regards to homework specifically, researcher Alfie Kohn has shown that there’s never been a single study performed proving the effectiveness of homework in improving learning. We’ve simply assumed it’s good for the child and we are forcing them. There is a huge problem in our education system with forcing kids to do things they don’t want. Don’t join the bad side – come to the light. Using force and coercion with our children is a horrible approach to teaching.
Advocate for your child. Sometimes homework is not necessary.
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
Does your child have a learning disability?
Jennifer Cooper, Ph.D. of the Tennessee Center for the Study and Treatment of Dyslexia said:
If your student isn’t able to finish the homework in a reasonable time frame, reach out to your student’s teachers and administrators to begin a conversation about homework practices. Students with learning disabilities may receive accommodations to assist them in accessing the curriculum, and these accommodations are also helpful in overcoming homework struggles. Accommodations are specific to your child’s educational needs, and it is important to secure the correct accommodations to allow your student to acquire and demonstrate mastery of class content. For example, a student with dyslexia who reads slowly and effortfully benefits from having an audio version of the textbook available at home. This allows the student to access the information in the text, despite having difficulty reading. A student with dysgraphia benefits from ways other than writing to demonstrate knowledge. This may include oral responses to homework questions, completing a verbal or visual presentation rather than writing a paper, or using technology to support drafting the paper. Reducing the amount of homework assigned to a student may also be an accommodation provided to students with learning disabilities.
Key takeaways
- Stay in communication with your child's teachers, and let them know when they're struggling with homework.
- Some children are not built for traditional homework or schooling, and it's worth looking into alternatives.
- If your child has a learning disability, make sure the proper accommodations are in place and the teacher is aware.
As a parent, you are one of your child’s greatest assets. You know them better than anyone, and being on their side when you feel they are truly being given an unfair amount of work is vital to their success!
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