Many adults who have ADHD blame themselves for the condition, which can lead to embarrassment, low confidence, and self-esteem. However, it’s important to understand that ADHD is not anyone’s fault. ADHD is a neuropyschiatric condition with biological origins, and does not reflect any failings or shortcomings of those with the condition.
ADHD is not your fault! Here are some ways to help you see the positives in the condition.
A blameless disease, ADHD benefits from professional and loved ones’ support.
There are ways to boost your confidence if you have ADHD. The first is to educate yourself about the condition to understand how it can be positive. In addition, you can try having a coach, such as a friend or therapist, to keep you organized and on track. Finally, you can start or join a support group to meet others with the condition who can understand what living with ADHD is like.
Your habit of blaming yourself may not change overnight, but in time through education, coaching and therapy, you will realize that ADHD is not your fault!
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
Key takeaways
- Many people with ADHD blame themselves for the condition, but it is not their fault.
- ADHD is a neuropsychiatric condition with a biological basis, and does not reflect any failing by the person with the condition.
- If you have ADHD, consider boosting confidence by educating yourself about the condition or trying coaching or joining a support group.
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