Your child stares at a hard page and says, “I’m bad at this.” Then a report comes home with a label on it. Late at night, you wonder if this is who your child will always be. That fear is heavy. Many parents carry it, and you are not alone. Hold onto this: “I’m bad at this” is not a description. It is a prediction your child is making.
Common questions from parents
Can my child’s brain change, or are they stuck?
Does a diagnosis mean my child has a limit?
Does growth mindset raise grades?
How should I praise a child who struggles?
Believing your child can grow matters. Practice is what builds the skill. What brain scans and mindset studies say, in plain words.
What does this infographic say about the brain and learning?
This Learning Success infographic sets two myths against what we know. Here it is in plain words, with our notes.
- Myth one: One single cause explains a learning struggle. The image says genes, the brain and a child’s world all play a part.
- Myth two: A label caps what a child will learn. The image calls that belief false.
- Reality one: The brain keeps changing as a child learns. Our note: the brain scans measured changes in activity, not new brain parts.
- Reality two: Many things shape learning. So there is more than one way to help.
- Three takeaways: Start teaching when you see the need. Build skills, not labels. Believe your child can grow.
The image also shows a big percentage. We could not find a source for it. So this article leaves it out. The image quotes Carol Dweck in words we could not trace. Below, we use her published study instead.
Belief keeps a child at the table. Practice is what builds the skill.
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
Can my child’s brain change with practice?
Yes. The brain keeps changing as a child learns. The best evidence we hold comes from reading studies. Researchers scanned children before and after strong reading teaching. Activity in reading areas shifted toward the pattern of typical readers (Shaywitz and colleagues, 2004; Meyler and colleagues, 2008). In those studies, the shift kept growing a year after teaching ended.
Two limits come with this. The scans measured activity, not new brain parts. And a review looked at 39 such studies (Perdue and colleagues, 2022). They did not agree on one set of brain changes. Here is an honest answer to “Will my child always struggle?”
So here is our view, stated plainly. Practice builds skills. A diagnosis describes where your child is today. It does not predict where they’ll be in a year of the right kind of practice. That is the line we hold onto for every family.
Learning also has more than one cause. For dyslexia, the International Dyslexia Association said so in 2025. Its definition names genetic, brain and environmental influences acting together. To us, that means there is more than one place to help.
Key takeaways
- The brain keeps learning: Reading studies saw brain activity shift after strong teaching.
- A label is a starting point: We read it as today's picture, not a ceiling.
- Belief plus practice: Praise effort and keep teaching. Practice does the building.
What does growth mindset do, and what builds the skill?
Growth mindset is the belief that abilities grow with effort and good strategies. It started with lab studies by Carol Dweck. In one, children worked on problems, then hit a hard set (Mueller and Dweck, 1998). Children praised for being smart gave up sooner. Children praised for effort kept going longer. That was in a lab, in a single session.
Since then, big reviews checked mindset programs in schools. They found small average effects on grades, and the reviewers disagree about them (Sisk and colleagues, 2018; Macnamara and Burgoyne, 2023). A large national study found a small gain too. It showed up only where classmates valued taking on hard work (Yeager and colleagues, 2019). For more, see what studies found about identity and mindset.
In our view, belief keeps a child at the table. Teaching and practice do the building. Here is what that looks like at home:
- Praise the work, not the brain. Say, “You tried a new way there.” Skip “You’re so smart.”
- Name the skill. Tell your child which skill the hard part is building.
- Use “yet.” “You can’t do this yet” turns a wall into a step.
- Make the step small. A small step is easier to start, and easier to repeat.
- Look past one cause. If one kind of help stalls, ask what else is in play.
When your child says, “I’m bad at this,” answer with the skill. Try: “This part is new. Let’s work on it together.” That tells your child the work is the path. And you walk it with them.
“The causes of dyslexia are complex and involve combinations of genetic, neurobiological, and environmental influences that interact throughout development.” – International Dyslexia Association, definition of dyslexia, 2025
A label describes where your child is today. It is not a ceiling.
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
Your child isn’t broken. Their brain is learning differently. The old way hands you a label and stops there. You get to keep going, one small step at a time. Start with our free Growth Mindset Program, with words for praise and effort.
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References
- International Dyslexia Association (2025). Definition of dyslexia. Adopted October 22, 2025.
- Shaywitz, B. A., et al. (2004). Development of left occipitotemporal systems for skilled reading in children after a phonologically-based intervention. Biological Psychiatry, 55(9), 926-933.
- Meyler, A., Keller, T. A., Cherkassky, V. L., Gabrieli, J. D. E., & Just, M. A. (2008). Modifying the brain activation of poor readers during sentence comprehension with extended remedial instruction. Neuropsychologia, 46(10), 2580-2592.
- Perdue, M. V., et al. (2022). Neural correlates of reading intervention: a systematic review and meta-analysis. Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews.
- Mueller, C. M., & Dweck, C. S. (1998). Praise for intelligence can undermine children's motivation and performance. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 75(1), 33-52.
- Sisk, V. F., Burgoyne, A. P., Sun, J., Butler, J. L., & Macnamara, B. N. (2018). To what extent and under which circumstances are growth mind-sets important to academic achievement? Two meta-analyses. Psychological Science, 29(4), 549-571.
- Macnamara, B. N., & Burgoyne, A. P. (2023). Do growth mindset interventions impact students' academic achievement? Psychological Bulletin, 149(3-4), 133-173.
- Yeager, D. S., et al. (2019). A national experiment reveals where a growth mindset improves achievement. Nature, 573(7774), 364-369.



