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Is My Child Stuck With This? Why Wait and See Is the Wrong Plan for a Learning Difficulty

Worried your child's learning difficulty is for life? To us, it describes skills not yet built. Here is what the 2025 dyslexia definition and the reading brain studies say, why waiting is not a plan, and what to do first.

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Learning Success infographic, Unlocking Potential: The Science of Multi-System Learning. Myth versus reality: the myths that learning difficulties are permanent disorders and that support can wait; the realities that the brain is adaptable and that learning challenges have more than one cause. A quote: with the right support, children develop the skills they need. Parent action plan: give targeted support now, focus on the whole child across thinking, feelings and friendships, and know that parents are a child's main advocates.
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Learning Success infographic, Unlocking Potential: The Science of Multi-System Learning. Myth versus reality: the myths that learning difficulties are permanent disorders and that support can wait; the realities that the brain is adaptable and that learning challenges have more than one cause. A quote: with the right support, children develop the skills they need. Parent action plan: give targeted support now, focus on the whole child across thinking, feelings and friendships, and know that parents are a child's main advocates.

The teacher says to give it time. Your own mother says you struggled too, and you turned out fine. But the homework takes two hours. Your child’s face falls at the table. Under it all sits a quiet fear. What if this never changes? You are not overreacting. Other parents carry that same worry, often in silence.

Common questions from parents

Will my child grow out of a learning difficulty?
We would not count on it. No study we hold tests waiting as a plan for a learning difficulty. Skills grow when they are taught. So keep teaching the skill that is hard, in short, calm sessions. Notice what gets easier. If you are worried, ask for help now rather than later.
Is a learning difficulty permanent?
To us, a learning difficulty describes skills a child has not built yet. The 2025 definition of dyslexia says its causes are complex. Genes, the brain and surroundings work together. In reading studies, brain activity shifted after strong teaching. A diagnosis describes where your child is today. It does not predict where they’ll be in a year of the right kind of practice.
The school told us to wait. Can we ask for an evaluation anyway?
Yes, in the US. Put your request in writing and keep a dated copy. A school cannot use “wait and see” to delay or deny one (OSEP Memo 11-07). If the school says no, it must say so in writing, with reasons. The evaluation is free to your family.
Where should I start if I am worried?
Start by writing down what you see. Then talk with the teacher. Our free Learning Difficulties Analysis asks what you see at home. It is a starting point, not a diagnosis. Only a professional evaluation can get an IEP or 504 plan. The same goes if you suspect a vision, hearing or medical cause.
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Told to wait and see? Waiting has never taught a child to read. Teaching does. Write down what you see, and ask the school in writing.

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What does this infographic say about learning difficulties?

The infographic answers one question. Is a learning difficulty a life sentence, or something you can work on now? Here are its main points in plain words.

  • To us, it is not a fixed condition. A learning difficulty describes skills your child has not built yet. Skills can be taught.
  • Waiting is not a plan. Waiting has never taught a child to read. Teaching does.
  • More than one thing is going on. Our view is that learning draws on several skills at once.
  • Look at the whole child. Thinking, feelings and friendships all matter, not only grades.
  • You lead the way. Parents are a child’s main advocates.

The image also shows a success rate. No study we hold backs that number, so we leave it out. The image says science “confirms” new brain pathways, too. The brain evidence is narrower than that. The next section shows what it does say.

“Give it time is not a plan. Time only helps when teaching fills it.” Laura Lurns

Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert

Is my child’s learning difficulty permanent?

Our answer is no. To us, a learning difficulty describes where your child’s skills are today. It is not a verdict on where they will end up.

The International Dyslexia Association rewrote its definition of dyslexia in 2025. It now says the causes are complex. Genes, the brain and a child’s surroundings work together over time.

Brain scans of reading add a hopeful clue. Shaywitz and colleagues at Yale (2004) scanned children before and after a reading program. Brain activity during reading moved toward the pattern of typical readers. Meyler and colleagues at Carnegie Mellon (2008) followed children for a year. The shift kept growing after teaching ended.

A 2022 review of 39 such studies (Perdue and others) adds a limit. The studies do not all agree. Pooled together, they showed no clear effect. These scans measured brain activity, not brain structure. And they studied reading only. We hold no such scans for math or attention. The point still stands. Skills are built by teaching them.

So here is what we say plainly. “A diagnosis describes where your child is today. It does not predict where they’ll be in a year of the right kind of practice.” Our infographic on two things they got wrong at diagnosis goes deeper on this.

Key takeaways

  1. Skills, not a sentence: A learning difficulty describes skills your child has not built yet.
  2. Waiting is not a plan: Waiting has never taught a child to read. Teaching does.
  3. Ask in writing: A dated, written request for an evaluation starts a record. Keep a copy.

Should we wait and see, or start now?

Waiting has never taught a child to read. Teaching does. Skills grow when someone teaches them and the child practices.

Parents tell us what waiting looks like at home. The fights. The tears. The child who quietly decides “I’m stupid.” That part grows while everyone waits.

Kind people often say “give it time.” In the US, one rule is worth knowing. A school cannot use a “wait and see” process to delay an evaluation. That comes from federal guidance (OSEP Memo 11-07, 2011). This guide to getting outside help explains how to ask.

Here is what to do first.

  • Write down what you see. Note the task, the day and what got hard. A record is easier to share than a memory.
  • Talk with the teacher. Ask what they see in class. Compare notes.
  • Ask in writing if you are worried. Request an evaluation, date it and keep a copy. In the US, the school evaluation is free to your family.
  • Keep teaching the hard skill. Practice it in short, calm sessions most days.
  • Look at the whole child. Notice sleep, worry and friendships as well as schoolwork.

“Although identification and targeted instruction are important at any age, language and literacy support before and during the early years of education is particularly effective.” International Dyslexia Association, definition of dyslexia, 2025

“You do not need anyone’s permission to help your own child.” Laura Lurns

Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert

You don’t need a credential to be your child’s first teacher. You already are one. Waiting for a child to fail has never built a single skill. Our free Learning Difficulties Analysis asks what you see at home. It is a starting point, not a diagnosis. Only a professional evaluation can get an IEP or 504 plan. Start the free Learning Difficulties Analysis.

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A screener is a starting point, not a diagnosis. If your child might need formal accommodations (an IEP or 504 plan), or you suspect a vision, hearing or medical cause, pursue a professional evaluation too. That is the only route to those supports.

References

  • International Dyslexia Association (2025). Definition of dyslexia.
  • Shaywitz, B. A., et al. (2004). Biological Psychiatry. fMRI study of a reading intervention, Yale.
  • Meyler, A., et al. (2008). Neuropsychologia. Longitudinal fMRI study of poor readers after intensive instruction, Carnegie Mellon.
  • Perdue, M. V., et al. (2022). Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews. Systematic review and meta-analysis of 39 reading-intervention imaging studies.
  • US Department of Education, Office of Special Education Programs (2011). OSEP Memo 11-07.
· Learning Success expert Writes about the learning brain for parents who want plain answers. Every article is grounded in current neuroscience and classroom practice.

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