The note from school said it now teaches the science of reading. You felt relief. Then a quieter question came. What does that look like in your child’s room on a Tuesday morning? Asking is not distrust, and you are not the only parent wondering.
Common questions from parents
What should science of reading teaching look like in a classroom?
Is it rude to ask the teacher for the phonics scope and sequence?
What if my child only names a book they read, not a sound?
Should I get my child screened if reading still seems hard?
Your school adopted the science of reading. Is it in your child's classroom? Two calm questions to ask this week.
Why would a school’s promise not reach the classroom?
Andrew Rotherham has a name for this. He cofounded Bellwether and writes the Eduwonk newsletter about schools. He calls it the science of reading’s gym membership problem. Signing up is one thing. Showing up every day is another.
Signing up happens once. A board votes, or a district buys a new program. Teaching happens every day, one lesson at a time, out of your sight. From outside, a change on paper looks like a change in the room.
Why does the room matter so much? Children pick up talking by being around it. Reading is different. There is no reading instinct. It has to be taught. That is the part of reading that is not natural. So how it is taught is a fair question.
None of this is about blaming a teacher. The science is not the problem here. The system that is supposed to deliver it is. For one state’s follow-through, read how Mississippi stopped teaching children to guess. For your own child, two calm questions help you look from where you stand.
Signing up happens once. Teaching happens every day, one lesson at a time, out of your sight.
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
What did your child learn in reading this week?
Here is the first check. Ask your child what they learned in reading this week. Then listen to what kind of answer comes back.
Clear, direct teaching means the teacher says the sound out loud. The teacher shows it, and the class practices it. The child is not left to work out the pattern alone. So listen for two kinds of answer.
- A good sign. A sound, a spelling pattern or a named skill. We learned a-i says the long a, like in rain.
- Worth a follow-up. Only a book title. We read a book about a bear.
One answer is a clue, not a verdict. Children forget lessons and remember stories. Ask again next week, or ask the teacher the same question.
Also ask what your child is told to do when stuck. Some children are taught to look at the picture or guess what makes sense. This guessing method is called three-cueing. Rayner and colleagues reviewed the eye-tracking science in 2016. Skilled readers look at most words in turn. They skip mainly short, common or predictable ones. Reading researcher Timothy Shanahan wrote in 2017 that three-cueing “is descriptive of how poor readers read rather than how good ones do.” So “sound it out” is a good sign. “Look at the picture” is worth asking about. If guessing has set in, here is how to teach sounding out at home.
Key takeaways
- Signing up is not showing up: A school vote changes the plan, not each day's lesson.
- Ask what was taught: A sound or spelling pattern is a good sign; a book title invites questions.
- Ask for the sequence: A structured phonics program has a written order of sounds to share.
Will the school show you its phonics plan?
The second check is a simple request. Ask to see the phonics scope and sequence. That is the written list of sounds and spellings, in the order taught. Simple ones come first. Each new one is taught on purpose and reviewed later.
A school using a structured program has this list to share. Sometimes the answer is different: “We teach phonics in context, as it comes up.” That is worth noticing. It describes no sequence at all, not a different one.
How you ask matters. Try this: “Could I see the phonics scope and sequence for this term? I’d like to practice the same sounds at home.” It is true, and it makes you a partner, not an inspector. With the list in hand, try these phonics activities for home.
Neither check proves what happens in a classroom. Together, they show you more than the note home did. If both answers look good, you have a plan to follow at home. If not, you have a calm, specific question for your next parent-teacher conference.
The science is not the problem here. The system that is supposed to deliver it is.
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
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