Download the right app, and the lateness stops. That is the promise. Then the app sits unopened, and the guilt gets louder. If that is your house, hear this first: your child isn’t broken. Their brain is learning differently, and no download does that learning for them.
FROM THE VIDEO
Key moments from Amy Spalding Dissects Late ADHD Diagnosis with Amy Spalding:
Common questions from parents
Why does my child lose track of time so easily?
What is the best app for ADHD time management?
Is my child being lazy when the work won’t start?
Should we ask the school for extra time on tests?
Do these ideas fit adults too?
She got extra time on every exam and still never finished one. To us, the clock was not her barrier. What that teaches about ADHD time tools:
Why doesn’t the right app fix ADHD time trouble?
Two stories get told about ADHD and time. One says the right app fixes it. The other says ADHD is a superpower. Amy Spalding holds both. On a podcast, she calls ADHD her “greatest superpower.” A minute later she calls parts of it debilitating, and says “it breaks my heart.” We think she has it right. Her strengths are real, and she earned them the hard way. We will not pretend the hard part is easy.
So what is the hard part with time? Managing time asks your head to do several jobs at once. Feel time pass. Hold the plan in mind. Get started on something big. These jobs go by one name, executive function. A review (Best & Miller, 2010) calls it several parts, not one. Each part grows on a somewhat different path. So there is no single switch to flip.
Our view is plain. A tool helps when it takes one job out of your head. It puts that job where you see it. The tool holds the job for you. It does not train the brain, and it does not need to.
A tool helps when it takes one job out of your head and puts it where you see it.
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
Which tool fits which job?
Start with the job that keeps dropping. Then pick the kind of tool that holds it. The brand matters less than the fit. The video below carries an ad for one time app. We are not recommending it, or any app.
- Time you do not feel. Some people call this time blindness. Amy owns three old watches with no batteries. She jokes that it explains why she is always late. A timer that shows time shrinking puts the minutes where you see them.
- Out of sight, out of mind. Put memory outside your head. Keep one place for every task. Put reminders on the phone’s lock screen, or a list on the fridge. Amy’s parents stopped telling her to get it done. They started making lists with her.
- Too big to start. Cut the task so small that the first step is easy. “Open the laptop” is a step. “Write the essay” is not. Here is more on the hidden choices inside a task that won’t start.
Pick one job and one tool. Live with it for a while before you add another. Reading this about yourself, not your child? All of it still holds. For a child, these tools are props you lend while the skill grows. Here are five props to lend a forgetful child.
Key takeaways
- Time is several jobs: Feeling time pass, holding the plan and starting are separate jobs.
- Tools hold the job: A visible timer or one list puts the job in sight.
- Check what support reaches: Ask if a support reaches what is stopping the work.
What if the support misses the real barrier?
At school, Amy got extra time on exams. She says it was because “they thought I was dyslexic.” She still never finished one. She spent the time drawing a perfectly straight table. She only reached the questions in the last half hour.
Extra time is a real support. To us, the clock was not what stopped her. Starting was, and staying on the question. So ask two things about any support. Does it reach the barrier that is stopping the work? Is it building the skill, or replacing the expectation that it gets built? The question was never “accommodation: yes or no.”
Amy also talks about the word lazy. A partner might say “stop being lazy, do the dishes.” In that same moment, you might be frozen. To us, a person stuck at the sink does not look lazy. Calling it lazy only means the effort hasn’t met the right method yet. For time, that method starts with a tool that holds the job.
To us, a person stuck at the sink does not look lazy.
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
You want days that work, for your child and for you. The old way calls a frozen start lazy, then hands out one fix. You see which job keeps slipping, and that is where help starts. Nobody will ever advocate for your child as hard as you will. Focus Foundations is a free PDF on attention and homework: read it tonight.
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