A boy named Adam learned piano faster than anyone could teach it. He also once showed up at school wearing one shoe. When his mother raised her worry, the school nurse laughed. A child who could memorize a 40-page sonata, she said, had no learning difficulty. Has someone waved off your worry about a bright child? You are not imagining things.
FROM THE VIDEO
Key moments from ADHD Chatter, with host Alex Partridge and psychiatrist Dr. Khurram Sadiq:
Common questions from parents
Do autism and ADHD ever show up together?
My child is gifted. Does that mean nothing is wrong?
Who diagnoses ADHD, and is there a test?
Is my bright child being lazy?
A school nurse laughed off a mother’s worry: a child who could memorize a 40-page sonata had no learning difficulty. Why bright kids get missed:
Why Does My Bright Child Seem Brilliant One Day and Stuck the Next?
Dr. Khurram Sadiq is a psychiatrist and the author of Explaining AuDHD. AuDHD is a name some people use for signs of autism and ADHD together. He describes his own brain this way, too.
He hears the same labels from families again and again. Brilliant one moment, not performing the next. Full of passion for one thing, then called lazy about the rest. Too much one day, not enough the next. His own father once told him he was “consistently inconsistent.” To us, nothing in that pattern looks like a child who isn’t trying. Your child isn’t broken. Their brain is learning differently.
He will not boil it down to a count of signs. He looks for contradictions instead, pairs of opposites held at the same time:
- Loves quiet, yet goes looking for noise and action.
- Builds routines, then struggles to keep them going.
- Wants the same food and the same shows, yet loses track of the day.
- Plays it safe, yet dives into new things.
His picture for it is simple. Autism acts like a parent: steady and ordered. ADHD acts like a friend: pulling toward people and new things. In one brain, the two pull against each other. We wrote more about how two wirings share one brain at school.
He sees it in homework, too. A child writes two pages of an essay. One thing goes wrong, and the child rips it all up. In his view, the ADHD side fears criticism. So the work has to be perfect. The autism side loves the subject and wants it done right.
Being bright and struggling are not opposites. They live side by side in the same child.
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
Why Do Bright Kids Get Missed?
Dr. Sadiq told Adam’s story on the ADHD Chatter podcast. Adam’s mother wrote to him after her son died. Adam was more than his talent. He forgot things. He kept to himself and lived inside his interests. We share his story with care. It is not a forecast for any other child. It shows what a quick brush-off misses. As Dr. Sadiq puts it, the eyes miss what the mind does not know.
The idea behind that laugh is an old one. It says a smart child must be fine. If a smart child struggles, the idea calls it laziness. To us, being bright and struggling are not opposites. They live side by side in the same child. A child’s strengths sometimes cover the struggle from view. We explain more in our piece on bright kids who feel different.
This is a habit of the system, not one person’s mistake. We see the pattern again and again. When the grades look fine, the worry gets set aside.
Dr. Sadiq adds a second twist. He says autism and ADHD sometimes hide each other. A child with a name for one side might have the other side missed. The American Academy of Pediatrics wrote a 2019 guideline for doctors. Its advice: an ADHD evaluation should at least screen for other conditions. Autism is on that list.
Key takeaways
- Opposites are the clue: Dr. Sadiq looks for pairs, like loving routine yet struggling to keep one.
- Gifts and struggle coexist: To us, a bright child who struggles is no contradiction.
- Ask for both: A 2019 AAP guideline says ADHD evaluations should screen for autism too.
What Do I Do With What I’m Noticing?
Dr. Sadiq’s first rule is plain. Curiosity is not a diagnosis. Noticing a pattern is a first step, not the answer.
He gives these steps to adults who wonder about themselves. They work for a parent, too:
- Write down what you see, and when it happens.
- Look back at old report cards and teacher notes.
- Notice how your child does at home, at school and with friends.
- Read trusted sources, not one stranger’s story online.
- Then talk with a professional who looks at autism and ADHD together.
The CDC says there is no single test for ADHD. A psychologist, a psychiatrist or a pediatrician makes the diagnosis. The steps include a medical exam with hearing and vision tests. Only a professional evaluation leads to formal supports like an IEP or 504 plan. Our guide on attention difficulty versus ADHD covers what else to check.
Bring your notes when you go. Ask the professional to look at autism and ADHD together. The AAP guideline says doctors should gather reports from parents and teachers. Your notes are part of that picture.
Dr. Sadiq ends on a line worth keeping. Different is not bad. Different is beautiful.
When the grades look fine, the worry gets set aside.
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
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