No one hands parents the fine print on a report card. The number measuring your child’s education was built to be graded by a machine. That means it rewards the same tasks a machine already performs. For more than a decade, the education reformer Ted Dintersmith has argued that schools chase those scores. Meanwhile they grind down the traits that actually carry an adult forward. The people who spend the most hours watching your child light up and shut down are not the ones who designed that test. You have felt the mismatch too, at the kitchen table, on the nights the homework seemed pointless. That instinct was information.
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Key moments from EP239: Ted Dintersmith on the future skills schools should teach, with Ted Dintersmith:
Common questions from parents
Does a low test score mean my child is falling behind for good?
My child is bright but struggles with one subject. Are they lazy?
How do I know if my child needs extra support or an evaluation?
Is it a good idea to let my child use AI for schoolwork?
Your child is not falling behind. They are being timed on a race a phone already won. The traits that will carry them, curiosity, creativity, nerve, rarely fit on a bubble sheet.
The Scores Measure a Race Machines Already Won
Here is the number behind the panic. When the 2022 national report card arrived, eighth-grade math had dropped about eight points on a five-hundred-point scale. Dintersmith reframes that as a shift of roughly 1.6 percent. It sits on a test full of math most adults never touch, given to children after two years of upheaval. Headlines called it catastrophic. He calls it a rounding error dressed up as a crisis.
The deeper trouble is what the score stands in for. Millions of these exams get scored by computer, so they have to test what a computer is able to grade. Anything a computer is able to grade, a computer is able to do. So a child spends years sprinting to answer low-level questions. The phone in their pocket answers those same questions instantly. Then we read the score as proof of a good school or a failing one. The measure became the mission, and the mission drifted from what a thriving adult needs.
This is the same pattern that keeps outdated ideas alive in classrooms. Learning styles were tested and did not hold up in 2008, and again in 2024. Yet a review of educators across eighteen countries found nearly nine in ten still teaching to them. The science is rarely the bottleneck. The system built to deliver it moves slowly, and your child pays the interest.
A child spends years sprinting to answer questions the phone in their pocket answers instantly, and we read the result as proof of a good school.
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
What the System Trains Out of a Child
Ask a parent what they want, and the answer is almost always the same: a happy kid. Watch what school asks that same kid to do, and it often points the other way. Dintersmith warns that a decade of chasing benchmarks quietly strips away creativity, curiosity, and the nerve to try something hard. Those are the traits he believes will separate people from machines. They rarely show up on a bubble sheet.
He is not alone in that worry. He co-founded a nonprofit with Sir Ken Robinson, whose talk asking whether schools kill creativity remains one of the most-watched of all time. The damage lands hardest on a child who learns differently. A system tuned to one measure reads a bright, capable kid who struggles with a single skill as lazy. The child slowly starts to believe it. That quiet belief, not the missing skill, is what follows them into the next classroom.
Here the science is settled, and worth saying plainly. The 2025 International Dyslexia Association definition dropped the old requirement that a struggling reader also test below their IQ. Struggling with a skill says nothing about how sharp your child is. Calling it laziness only means the effort has not met the right method yet. What looks like a deficit is often a strength still waiting for the right room to stand in.
Key takeaways
- Scores measure the wrong race: Bulk tests grade the low-level tasks a machine already performs perfectly.
- Struggle is not a verdict on intelligence: The 2025 IDA definition decouples a skill gap from a child's IQ.
- Lead with strengths at home: Give what your child does well more room, starting this week.
The Strengths-First Move You Start at Home
Dintersmith keeps returning to a line from the management thinker Peter Drucker. Most people try to improve by fixing what they do poorly. The better path, Drucker said, is to find what they do well and do more of it. Picture that idea as a school. A public district in Winchester, Virginia built close to it. Its innovation center puts welding, healthcare, cybersecurity, and AI beside advanced academics as respected, equal paths. Graduation rates climbed, and the message to every family was that all strengths count.
You do not need a whole district to begin. Three moves work at the kitchen table this week:
- Name one thing your child does well, out loud. Then give them thirty unhurried minutes to go deeper into it, no worksheet attached.
- Treat AI as a curiosity machine, not a shortcut. Sit together and ask it the questions your child wonders about. Then ask a second engine to poke holes in the first answer.
- Swap one deficit-drill for a strength-build. The weak skill will still be there tomorrow, and a confident child attacks it from higher ground.
None of this abandons the hard skills. It sequences them differently, the way a passion-led approach to learning tends to. When a child leads with what they love, the tough subjects stop feeling like a verdict and start feeling like a tool.
What looks like a deficit is often a strength still waiting for the right room to stand in.
Laura Lurns · Learning Success expert
You Are the Reform
You want your child curious, confident, and standing on what they do well, not sorted by a number that measures the wrong thing. The system that keeps chasing that number will move at its own slow pace. The reformers on stage do not sit at your kitchen table. You do. The people who watch your child struggle and succeed for the most hours are the ones who shape what happens next, and today that is you.
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A struggle with one subject rarely travels alone. A child worn down by the wrong measure often shows knock-on signs in focus, confidence, and how they meet the next hard task. All Access covers the whole picture, so you support the child rather than a single label. Start with All Access here.
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